Molly Shannon says parents should change their attitude about raising teenagers

• Molly Shannon shared her proposal for parenting teens connected "Today pinch Hoda and Jenna."
• The actor-comedian's 2 kids are now successful college.
• Raising teenagers tin beryllium tricky, but nan correct attack tin group nan shape for a beardown relationship.

Molly Shannon has a extremity for parents dreading nan time their kids move into teenagers.

In an question and reply connected "Today pinch Hoda and Jenna" connected Tuesday, nan character said that parents should spot their teens arsenic "regular people."

"Don't judge nan point wherever group are like, 'Oh, teens,' because past it's almost for illustration group tin make that happen," said Shannon, whose daughter, Stella, 20, and son, Nolan, 19, are successful college.

"You shouldn't person this cognition that it's going to beryllium bad," she said. "It's wonderful!'

And if parents find themselves battling pinch their teenagers each nan time, they should bespeak connected their parenting, Shannon, 60, said.

"I would think, really tin I beryllium better? How tin I reflector nan defense aliases that type of thing? I would want to activity connected myself," she said. "I americium ever reference psychology self-help — almost for illustration a class. I find it interesting, and I emotion learning."

When asked really she parents big kids, nan "Saturday Night Live" alum said that it's important to commencement pinch empathy.

"Most of nan time, they conscionable want to beryllium heard. I effort to deliberation of that. And yeah, you could stock a parallel communicative or, I don't know, I americium not an expert, but I emotion being a mom because I mislaid my mom," said Shannon, who mislaid her mom successful a car mishap erstwhile she was younger.

A typical for Shannon did not instantly respond to a petition for remark from Business Insider sent extracurricular regular business hours.

Raising teenagers is not ever easy

Parenting teenagers tin beryllium tricky. However, nan correct attack tin laic nan instauration of a beardown parent-child relationship.

A 2022 study by Penn State, published successful "Developmental Psychology," recovered that teenagers who knowledgeable much parental warmth successful their early teen years were person to their parents erstwhile they reached their 20s. The researchers surveyed 1,631 participants from Pennsylvania and Iowa who completed surveys arsenic teens and again astatine 22.

Allison Tenney, whose daughters are 12 and 13, said she's fostered a patient narration pinch them by maintaining an identity extracurricular being a mother and prioritizing apologies erstwhile she makes a mistake.

She added that erstwhile her kids show attitude, she brings them a snack. "There are truthful galore small things that could beryllium contributing to 1 of them having an attitude, but usually, they're conscionable hungry."

Similarly, Trisha Daab, a genitor of 5 kids, antecedently wrote for BI that she advises parents of teenagers to connect complete euphony aliases meals and show liking successful what they like.

"I've had days erstwhile I felt I had thing successful communal pinch my kid. Or we're some having a day, and each we are doing is frustrating each other," she wrote.

"There will beryllium those days, and that's OK. Even erstwhile they are wholly infuriating, ever show them you emotion them."